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In long-term relationships desire fades away?

Not always. Is it possible to maintain passion or to regain former pleasure? Physical attraction in a marriage often fades with time, but that does not mean that it is impossible to return or to keep it.

Choose the right time to talk

Sexual life of a couple may stop for many reasons: stress, illness, anxiety, low libido, menopause, lack of confidence and so on. And it is easier to keep silent about this topic, than to have courage to talk about it openly. But still the talk is needed, it is best when both of you are relaxed and nothing interrupts your conversation.

Learn to listen to the partner. Do not take all the above into your account. Do not think that you no longer attract him, do not attribute to him your own concerns. Such conversations are always loaded with unnecessary emotions, so try not to give in to them and to hear what he or she wants to tell.
Be honest with yourself and with your partner. Haven`t both of you already make an effort to like each other? Your relationship has become such a commonplace? It is not that you need to be like some supermodels or something like that. But if you do not love yourself and do not see anything attractive in yourself, it is difficult to expect that other people will love you. Maybe you are not satisfied that the partner has ceased to take care of yourself himself? Tell him about it as discreetly as possible.

Be patient. If lack of sex became the stumbling block, the more passionate of you two needs to be patient, to work together to understand the causes of the problem. And of course, better do not offer the partner an open relationship. (try something new, omegle video chat, for example).

Ask for help together

It is necessary to go to sexologist or family therapist to understand the true causes of the problem. It is important that than you are trying to understand the situation together. At the beginning of the relationship sex seems to be somewhat self-evident, natural and delicious, but over the years it may require conscious effort. However, they will pay off handsomely.

Emotional and physical intimacies go together. Spend leisure together, have fun, find time for each other. When we feel that our partner hears and understands us, this surely increases the desire.

Temporary ban to sex

Some specialists recommend to couples who do not have sex... prohibit them (temporarily) to have it. At first glance, it sounds strange, but consciousness itself, that you will have not sex, removes the anxiety associated with waiting. It allows partners to feel more relaxed. And then start with small steps: hold hands in the street, kiss… The next stage is massage, long kisses, and virtual sex. But do not have sex until you feel ready. The idea of ​​this gradual rapprochement to rediscover sensuality each other and allow the desire to grow without any coercion.